“Have the courage to be imperfect.” –Brene Brown
Vulnerability: A powerful word that scares the crap out of most people.
By definition, being vulnerable means to be open to moral attack, criticism, temptation, etc, but I want to go deeper than that.
One of my favourite TED talks is by Brené Brown on the Power of Vulnerability. Brown explains how vulnerability is the key to connection, connection being why we are here. It gives purpose and meaning to our lives.
In order to connect with people in a real way, it’s essential to be exposed. Completely exposing yourself may be one of the most uncomfortable things you ever do, but really being seen, is a beautiful thing.
Most of us are scared that if we reveal our authentic selves, we will be misunderstood or worse, rejected. The fear of rejection is so powerful that it can prevent us from living out our full potential and doing extraordinary things.
Being more vulnerable….
Share your weaknesses. This doesn’t in any way mean you should put yourself down, but instead be open and honest about the things you struggle with, rather than feeling shame. I enjoy talking about areas in my life that I’m working on because it gives me the opportunity to have meaningful conversations and relate to people in a real way. Anyone who knows me knows I absolutely HATE small talk; I dig deep right away so I can build friendships that go beyond talking about superficial things.
Accept negative emotions. Not everyone is going to be happy all the time. The reality is sometimes we feel insecure, inadequate or depressed. Sometimes the people we love hurt us and it is devastating. Instead of masking these emotions, feel them. If you need to cry, then cry already! Getting in touch with our feelings enables us to stay connected with ourselves, which is essential for connecting with others.
Be rejected. The more times you are rejected, the stronger you become and the more you learn about yourself. If you want to succeed in doing what you love, it’s important put yourself out there. Is there an area in your life you are afraid to share with the world? Stop letting the fear of failure get in the way of your purpose! The bolder you are in expressing who you are, the more comfortable you will become in your own skin.
Just be real with people, and more importantly, be real with yourself.
Nobody said this life was easy and vulnerability is no exception to that. Naturally we numb vulnerability and only show people the side of us we know they will accept. We want to appear strong, successful and capable, so we choose to hide. Vulnerability tends to be associated with weakness, when in actuality; vulnerability shows a tremendous amount of strength.
“What makes you vulnerable makes you beautiful.” -Brene Brown
This blog entry was inspired by my very beautiful and talented friend, Lena. She wrote a song called Exposed for CBC Music’s Searchlight competition and made it to the third round! GO LENA! You can vote for her here & listen to Exposed.